byline: Miranda Rhuda
Silent Ministries, Battered Abused Discriminated and Disadvantaged (BADD), headquartered in Lake Park, Ga., is a rapidly growing ministry known to more than 3600 members.
This ministry utilizes the professions and talents of their staff and members to provide many services to people all over the world. They do not charge a flat rate for any services. They only ask that you provide an affordable donation towards the services provided to you. If you are in an emergency situation and do not have finances available to you, they provide services free.
Some of the services that they provide include: Child Custody and Child Support Assistance, Employment Searches, Self-Defense Product Distribution, Inspirational and Instructional Books, and Grief and Abuse Counseling.
They also make it possible for battered and abused women and children to learn how to gain freedom and prosper through faith-based education and support. They also provide financial assistance to battered women, so that they may obtain good attorneys for divorce and protection order processing.
They provide food, clothing, and gifts for birthdays and Christmas’ to disadvantaged children.
They correspond and minister to inmates through bible studies, prayer support and letters of faith. Their main focus is on domestic violence and sexual or physical abuse. However, they make will reach out to convert any inmates including those whose past lives on the streets included drugs, promiscuity, rape, sex offenses, deviations, perversions and murder.
They provide an international prayer network of more than 3600 members and openly accept prayer requests and new members.
They are involved in the Migrant Workers Ministry, providing support and assistance to the migrant workers in the USA.
Their vision for the future includes: achieving a live evangelical ministry to assist an orphanage in India with Pastor Dakes, and starting a virtual online church named the International Community Chapel of Hope. The Chapel will offer courses on the Bible, Life Purpose, Word of God and living through Jesus, providing participants with a Certification of Faith upon completion.
They are very serious about their purpose and work for God. This ministry will fight for you, tooth and nail, if that is what you need.
Check them out at http://www.silentministry.webs.com/
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Thursday, September 9, 2010
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Who Do We Assist? Not those who abuse the system!
Who Do We Assist?
I think that it is important for us to clarify who we assist and how we help them. There are many people these days who “abuse the system”. People are greedy and they take advantage of the welfare system and non-profit services. We do not help people like this! We do not provide services for those who are already receiving assistance!
We also do not help people who are not willing to help themselves. When a client comes to us for services, they are thoroughly screened. If they are not employed, we will find out why. We will have them provide the proper information for a resume and cover letter to be drafted. We then help them find employment. If they are willing to cooperate in this process, then we will help them. But unless they are going to do something to help their self, we are not going to act as a crutch!
Too many young parents are looking for an easy way out these days. People are taking advantage of the disability services and welfare programs. We do not encourage this behavior. It is our goal to change the way of thinking and inspire and encourage young parents to become INDEPENDENT and help themselves!
If this is something that you think is worthy of funding… Or if you are someone who needs this kind of service… please visit our website at http://silentministry.webs.com or send us an e-mail at smrobadd@aol.com
I think that it is important for us to clarify who we assist and how we help them. There are many people these days who “abuse the system”. People are greedy and they take advantage of the welfare system and non-profit services. We do not help people like this! We do not provide services for those who are already receiving assistance!
We also do not help people who are not willing to help themselves. When a client comes to us for services, they are thoroughly screened. If they are not employed, we will find out why. We will have them provide the proper information for a resume and cover letter to be drafted. We then help them find employment. If they are willing to cooperate in this process, then we will help them. But unless they are going to do something to help their self, we are not going to act as a crutch!
Too many young parents are looking for an easy way out these days. People are taking advantage of the disability services and welfare programs. We do not encourage this behavior. It is our goal to change the way of thinking and inspire and encourage young parents to become INDEPENDENT and help themselves!
If this is something that you think is worthy of funding… Or if you are someone who needs this kind of service… please visit our website at http://silentministry.webs.com or send us an e-mail at smrobadd@aol.com
Friday, September 3, 2010
SMRO Goes National
We pleased to announce that Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach is expanding outside of the Georgia area. We will be expanding our ministry nationally with new chapters opening in Ohio, Texas and California.
Three very dedicated women have chosen to open chapters for the ministry in their hometowns. This is a very big step in the right direction!
If you are a dedicated member or would like to participate in opening your own chapter in the ministry, please contact Miranda Rhuda at misswriter415@aol.com or Pastor Jim Harnage at jharnage7@aol.com
Three very dedicated women have chosen to open chapters for the ministry in their hometowns. This is a very big step in the right direction!
If you are a dedicated member or would like to participate in opening your own chapter in the ministry, please contact Miranda Rhuda at misswriter415@aol.com or Pastor Jim Harnage at jharnage7@aol.com
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Ask Pastor Jim
Pastor Jim Harnage of Lake Park Georgia is opening his knowledge and years of experience to answer any and all questions of faith that you may have.
Please go to http://silentministries.org/askpastorjimharnage.html
He will provide you with an answer and guidance to all of your questions.
Please go to http://silentministries.org/askpastorjimharnage.html
He will provide you with an answer and guidance to all of your questions.
Why Join Our Ministry?
Joining our ministry will give you the peace of mind of knowing:
1. That you are making it possible for battered women and children to learn how to become free and proserpous through our classes and seminars.
2. That you are supporting a real, live evangelical ministry and orphanage in India with Pastor Dakes. We have witnessed this ministry and I know that God has placed Pastor Dakes there for a purpose. These kids, of whom I have photos of each one and their testimony, are being delivered rom sin, witch craft, educational ignorance, and hunger in this ministry.
3. That your donations and gifts make Christmas possible for "at risk" children.
4. That you support an international prayer ministry where you or a loved one can receive prayer any time day or night.
5. That you are helping us correspond with at least 20 inmates through bible studies and prayer support whose past lives on the streets of drugs, prodigality, promiscuity, rape, sexual offenses, deviations, perversions, or murder, has led them into a dead end road where they are shown their greatest need is God, how to repent, accept forgivness, ask others for forgiveness, and make life straight for the victims and themselves. Other ministries are working with hundreds of inmates but Silent Ministries felt the leading for one area of need and it is those involved in needing delieverance from abuse and domestic violence. We ask for the worst of the worst because that is from whence comes the greatest praises and thanksgivings.
Our desire is to see this ministry go international within 2009 and we need to train, pray, and equip others for this task. We hope that you will join us!
1. That you are making it possible for battered women and children to learn how to become free and proserpous through our classes and seminars.
2. That you are supporting a real, live evangelical ministry and orphanage in India with Pastor Dakes. We have witnessed this ministry and I know that God has placed Pastor Dakes there for a purpose. These kids, of whom I have photos of each one and their testimony, are being delivered rom sin, witch craft, educational ignorance, and hunger in this ministry.
3. That your donations and gifts make Christmas possible for "at risk" children.
4. That you support an international prayer ministry where you or a loved one can receive prayer any time day or night.
5. That you are helping us correspond with at least 20 inmates through bible studies and prayer support whose past lives on the streets of drugs, prodigality, promiscuity, rape, sexual offenses, deviations, perversions, or murder, has led them into a dead end road where they are shown their greatest need is God, how to repent, accept forgivness, ask others for forgiveness, and make life straight for the victims and themselves. Other ministries are working with hundreds of inmates but Silent Ministries felt the leading for one area of need and it is those involved in needing delieverance from abuse and domestic violence. We ask for the worst of the worst because that is from whence comes the greatest praises and thanksgivings.
Our desire is to see this ministry go international within 2009 and we need to train, pray, and equip others for this task. We hope that you will join us!
How We Got Started
E-ministry, or our email prayer ministry began about two years ago with one single prayer request from a mother of a twleve year old girl in Texas. The mother, Rhonda and I were doing a person's locate when she mentioned to me in a email that her daughter, 12 year old Abigail, had been taking treatments for leg bone cancer. They were praying for her healing. We joined them in special prayer along with the Aunt Judy. Long story short Abigail is healed today of leg bone ancer. She has been through some painful treatments and multiple surgeries but thank God, prayer, and the anointed field of medicine, Abigail is healed.
Rhonda, her mother, would alway send her emails to me signed "Searching for Rainbows." Rhonda, who is now a spokesperson for children at Texas' MD Anderson hospital who are undergoing treatments for potentially terminal illnesses now signs her emails "Seeing Rainbows."
We made a few emails encouraging others to send their prayer requests and the ministry developed into an international email prayer request ministry with approximately 1200 families representing approximatley 2400 prayer warriors praying for you. In 2008 Silent Ministries also began offering online abuse and grief counseling.
Individuals have been delivered from drug addiction, mental, and emotional trauma from abuse and domestic violence. Inmates have testified to accepting Jesus as Savior and recieve Bible courses through the Inmate Pen Pal Ministry. Others have testified to deliverance from depression, suicidal thoughts and tendencies, and witchcraft. There are testimonies of healings and family and marital recovery.
We strive to serve God as silently as possible but sometimes we have to shake the devil's front door to get his attention to the fact that we all are created by God for Him to use and to be at peace and no individual was created to be bound, beaten, battered, abused, or stay sick and depressed, discriminated, and discouraged.
We are all God's beautiful creation and God has a purpose for each of us. Our trials and suffeinrgs are what teaches us obedience and makes us graduates of His school to go forth and help others.
Please send us your requests and pray for us. If you wish to join us it is free. It is our vision in 2009 to open an International Community Chapel of Hope to teach the power of unity, love, prayer, and friendship. We already have a burden and vision for a mission program to a church in India with Pastor Dakes. We have recieved over 50 photos of children in that ministry and orphaage who are themselves being delievered from witchcrft and hunger and taught how to be self-supported. The power of unity is grossly underestimated. We will teach prayer and the Word.
We are blessed with the services of Ms. Miranda Rhuda to set up our newest web sites. We thank god for her skills and talents. We look for God to do great things in all of our and your lives as we all obey God.
If you wish to donate to this ministry it goes to support these ministries such as clothes, food, Christmas and birthdays for disadvantaged kids, stamps to correspond with inmates, self-defense products for the abused and battered, cell phones for the disadvantaged battered mother in imminent danger, protection orders and haven for battered women and children, child support investigations and child watch and security for "at risk" children, weekly messages, and inspirational books written by Jim Harnage on life, abuse, ovecoming, and how to stand up for yourself.
There are just too many arms of this ministry to mention here but we strive to work for God's glory. We ask for your love, prayers, and support but most of all we ask for your prayers. God is awesome and He has everything under control.
God loves you and we love you.
Jim and Carolyn
Rhonda, her mother, would alway send her emails to me signed "Searching for Rainbows." Rhonda, who is now a spokesperson for children at Texas' MD Anderson hospital who are undergoing treatments for potentially terminal illnesses now signs her emails "Seeing Rainbows."
We made a few emails encouraging others to send their prayer requests and the ministry developed into an international email prayer request ministry with approximately 1200 families representing approximatley 2400 prayer warriors praying for you. In 2008 Silent Ministries also began offering online abuse and grief counseling.
Individuals have been delivered from drug addiction, mental, and emotional trauma from abuse and domestic violence. Inmates have testified to accepting Jesus as Savior and recieve Bible courses through the Inmate Pen Pal Ministry. Others have testified to deliverance from depression, suicidal thoughts and tendencies, and witchcraft. There are testimonies of healings and family and marital recovery.
We strive to serve God as silently as possible but sometimes we have to shake the devil's front door to get his attention to the fact that we all are created by God for Him to use and to be at peace and no individual was created to be bound, beaten, battered, abused, or stay sick and depressed, discriminated, and discouraged.
We are all God's beautiful creation and God has a purpose for each of us. Our trials and suffeinrgs are what teaches us obedience and makes us graduates of His school to go forth and help others.
Please send us your requests and pray for us. If you wish to join us it is free. It is our vision in 2009 to open an International Community Chapel of Hope to teach the power of unity, love, prayer, and friendship. We already have a burden and vision for a mission program to a church in India with Pastor Dakes. We have recieved over 50 photos of children in that ministry and orphaage who are themselves being delievered from witchcrft and hunger and taught how to be self-supported. The power of unity is grossly underestimated. We will teach prayer and the Word.
We are blessed with the services of Ms. Miranda Rhuda to set up our newest web sites. We thank god for her skills and talents. We look for God to do great things in all of our and your lives as we all obey God.
If you wish to donate to this ministry it goes to support these ministries such as clothes, food, Christmas and birthdays for disadvantaged kids, stamps to correspond with inmates, self-defense products for the abused and battered, cell phones for the disadvantaged battered mother in imminent danger, protection orders and haven for battered women and children, child support investigations and child watch and security for "at risk" children, weekly messages, and inspirational books written by Jim Harnage on life, abuse, ovecoming, and how to stand up for yourself.
There are just too many arms of this ministry to mention here but we strive to work for God's glory. We ask for your love, prayers, and support but most of all we ask for your prayers. God is awesome and He has everything under control.
God loves you and we love you.
Jim and Carolyn
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Florida Panhandle Pollution Investigated for Possible Carcinogenic Effects
May I ask you all to welcome Darrell Hocker. Please visit his page. Silent
Ministries, Inc is gearing up to make Darrell's cause our cause.
His 5 year old child is in remission of cancer. This cancer is suspicious of
being a result of point source pollution, a project that is affecting over 100
known individuals in the Florida Panhandle area.
We have been where Darrell and his family are today. Darrell has taken ove rthe
overwhelmig task of leading his community in an awareness program in hopes of
saving lives and preventing future cancers and illnesses.
We are agreeing in prayer for Darrell's child and for God to give Darrell and
his wife the fortitude and grace needed to see this fight through on behalf of
his child and the community.
Research Darrell's true life real time story. You will find many of his facts
and findings to coinicide with our investigation of a similar project in our
story Inside The Dixie Mafia and EPA Fails To Investigate.
Pray and contact your friends and family in the Florida Panhandle area to join
this site and become familiar with Darrell's story and a possible cancer plume
as a result of pollution from the Indian Head Project near Apalachicola and East
Point, Florida.
I pastored there several years and the people and area are dear to me. It
appears that I may be going back under dfferent circumstances this time.
Pray, pray, pray for this project as we hold up Darrell in prayers and support
and await the moment he calls on us for help.
Jim
Ministries, Inc is gearing up to make Darrell's cause our cause.
His 5 year old child is in remission of cancer. This cancer is suspicious of
being a result of point source pollution, a project that is affecting over 100
known individuals in the Florida Panhandle area.
We have been where Darrell and his family are today. Darrell has taken ove rthe
overwhelmig task of leading his community in an awareness program in hopes of
saving lives and preventing future cancers and illnesses.
We are agreeing in prayer for Darrell's child and for God to give Darrell and
his wife the fortitude and grace needed to see this fight through on behalf of
his child and the community.
Research Darrell's true life real time story. You will find many of his facts
and findings to coinicide with our investigation of a similar project in our
story Inside The Dixie Mafia and EPA Fails To Investigate.
Pray and contact your friends and family in the Florida Panhandle area to join
this site and become familiar with Darrell's story and a possible cancer plume
as a result of pollution from the Indian Head Project near Apalachicola and East
Point, Florida.
I pastored there several years and the people and area are dear to me. It
appears that I may be going back under dfferent circumstances this time.
Pray, pray, pray for this project as we hold up Darrell in prayers and support
and await the moment he calls on us for help.
Jim
Friday, July 17, 2009
Silent Ministries is asking for your prayers!
I am calling on all Nanas and Papas, mothers and dads, sons and daughters, and
friends for your help.
We are beginning case in California of alleged abuse of children by individuals
within departments which are sworn to protect them and to determine and uncover
government corruption in those departments.
This case will be our first of a civil rights case so we ask for your prayers.
God is bigger than any mountain that we can or cannot see.
We are requesting the assistance and awareness of local governments, the United
States Attorney General, California Attorney General, and the office of GAP or
Government Accountability Project.
Pray for a 5 year old daughter in Florida who is possible a victim, along with
hundreds of others, of a rare from of cancer than can be contracted through a
point source pollution. We are gearing up to assist this community when we are
called upon.
We ask for your prayers about a state mandate that could hinder private agenices
like ours from giving the needed assistance to children who are not recieving
their court-ordered child support.
We are initially undertaking a case in which the court has not enforced the case
where the children are owed over $40,000 in back child support. It is just what
the term means. Child support. Help us pray and support this case.
Love
Jim
SMRO, INC.
P. O. Box 1112
Lake Park, GA 31636
229-559-4996
friends for your help.
We are beginning case in California of alleged abuse of children by individuals
within departments which are sworn to protect them and to determine and uncover
government corruption in those departments.
This case will be our first of a civil rights case so we ask for your prayers.
God is bigger than any mountain that we can or cannot see.
We are requesting the assistance and awareness of local governments, the United
States Attorney General, California Attorney General, and the office of GAP or
Government Accountability Project.
Pray for a 5 year old daughter in Florida who is possible a victim, along with
hundreds of others, of a rare from of cancer than can be contracted through a
point source pollution. We are gearing up to assist this community when we are
called upon.
We ask for your prayers about a state mandate that could hinder private agenices
like ours from giving the needed assistance to children who are not recieving
their court-ordered child support.
We are initially undertaking a case in which the court has not enforced the case
where the children are owed over $40,000 in back child support. It is just what
the term means. Child support. Help us pray and support this case.
Love
Jim
SMRO, INC.
P. O. Box 1112
Lake Park, GA 31636
229-559-4996
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Georgia Child Support Scam Alert
October 2, 2007
ATLANTA (GA) – The Department of Human Resources (DHR) Office of Child Support Services (OCSS) along with the Governor’s Office of Consumer Affairs (OCA) would like to alert the public of a child support collecting company that is allegedly engaged in fraudulent practices in Georgia. According to OCA, a company named Child Support Services of Georgia is contacting non custodial parents to set up child support payments. Once contacted, consumers believe that they are in contact with the official State of Georgia, Office of Child Support Services when in fact they are being contacted by a company that has no affiliation with this Office. Allegedly, once those payments are made, the company pockets the money and the custodial parent doesn’t receive a penny.
"It is important the public is ma de aware of this possible scam that takes money out of the hands of deserving Georgian citizens" says OCSS Acting Director Keith Horton. "OCSS is the only official state support collection agency within Georgia and we have not authorized anyone to collect funds on our behalf. We take this type of allegation seriously and we will ensure that all reported activities are properly investigated and prosecuted to the fullest letter of the law."
According to the OCA, Child Support Services of Georgia has misrepresented themselves by advertising their location as Atlanta; however the company is physically located and operated out of Florida. They are also misrepresenting their affiliation to OCSS by claiming to collect funds on behalf of OCSS. After being contacted by Child Support Services of Georgia, consumers enter into written contracts with the company and are then charged significant fees and surcharges. After the company allegedly fails to deposit the collected payments into consumer’s accounts, consumers then experience difficulties in canceling their contracts.
OCSS and Child Support Services of Georgia are in no way affiliated. If you have been victimized by this company, please contact the Governor’s Office of Consumer Affairs at 1-800-869-1123 or 404-651-8600.
ATLANTA (GA) – The Department of Human Resources (DHR) Office of Child Support Services (OCSS) along with the Governor’s Office of Consumer Affairs (OCA) would like to alert the public of a child support collecting company that is allegedly engaged in fraudulent practices in Georgia. According to OCA, a company named Child Support Services of Georgia is contacting non custodial parents to set up child support payments. Once contacted, consumers believe that they are in contact with the official State of Georgia, Office of Child Support Services when in fact they are being contacted by a company that has no affiliation with this Office. Allegedly, once those payments are made, the company pockets the money and the custodial parent doesn’t receive a penny.
"It is important the public is ma de aware of this possible scam that takes money out of the hands of deserving Georgian citizens" says OCSS Acting Director Keith Horton. "OCSS is the only official state support collection agency within Georgia and we have not authorized anyone to collect funds on our behalf. We take this type of allegation seriously and we will ensure that all reported activities are properly investigated and prosecuted to the fullest letter of the law."
According to the OCA, Child Support Services of Georgia has misrepresented themselves by advertising their location as Atlanta; however the company is physically located and operated out of Florida. They are also misrepresenting their affiliation to OCSS by claiming to collect funds on behalf of OCSS. After being contacted by Child Support Services of Georgia, consumers enter into written contracts with the company and are then charged significant fees and surcharges. After the company allegedly fails to deposit the collected payments into consumer’s accounts, consumers then experience difficulties in canceling their contracts.
OCSS and Child Support Services of Georgia are in no way affiliated. If you have been victimized by this company, please contact the Governor’s Office of Consumer Affairs at 1-800-869-1123 or 404-651-8600.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Women's Worth
To my sisters in the Lord...
There comes a time in every woman's life when she has to take a close look at herself. Not at her circumstance, not at what she did, and not how unfair life is.
Women must look at themselves in the glory in which God created them. Women must look at their imperfections and acknowledge their humanity and flesh but they also must view themselves through the sacred mirror of impartiality and holiness that God views them through.
It is while gazing and meditating upon the true beauty of God in them that women will find faith and energy to fulfil God's purposes and destinies.
Be careful of what you are convinced of yourself. Caution yourself as to whose eyes you look through or see yourself through. Push ahead.
Have you ever admired a woman who has been through changes in her life? Or have you made up in your mind that she is just messed up. Before you make this mistake, take a closer look.
A woman who has endured the most unusual life is someone of wisdom, someone who has been chosen by God to go through things that have made her stronger.
Think of all the great women in the Bible: Mary Magdalene who was tormented by a past. Ruth and Naomi both spouses of weak-willed and weak-minded men. And the nameless woman (Mark 5) with a sickness that required her by the old law to cry "Unclean!" and separated her from doing business as usual or making friends. Have you ever felt like you have no name? no identification? Lost? No purpose? Does your sickness or trial make you fell ostracized and separated from society. Make you feel like you are a laughing stock. Makes it difficult for you to live as others would normally live?
Mary was a prostitute, a very uneasy woman. But by the time Jesus was done with her, she was His closest follower.
Esther was unfortunate in marrying an abusive man, but by the time God was done with her, she had married one of the wealthiest men in the land. Before we wonder, ' What's up with her?' ask yourself, 'What's up with me?'
That woman could be my mother, sister, aunt, in-law, stepmother, niece, grandmother, great-grandmother, neighbor, friend, or co-worker, etc. That woman could be ME.
Women were ordained, anointed, and blessed to be carriers of life. God never intended woen to be channels of abuse and vessels through which to convey death.
Let's build and encourage each other, as did Ruth and Naomi . Pass this to all the women in your life. Encourage and love, forgive and forget, and trust that the woman that receives this will be touched in some way. May the peace and love of Christ be upon you!
There comes a time in every woman's life when she has to take a close look at herself. Not at her circumstance, not at what she did, and not how unfair life is.
Women must look at themselves in the glory in which God created them. Women must look at their imperfections and acknowledge their humanity and flesh but they also must view themselves through the sacred mirror of impartiality and holiness that God views them through.
It is while gazing and meditating upon the true beauty of God in them that women will find faith and energy to fulfil God's purposes and destinies.
Be careful of what you are convinced of yourself. Caution yourself as to whose eyes you look through or see yourself through. Push ahead.
Have you ever admired a woman who has been through changes in her life? Or have you made up in your mind that she is just messed up. Before you make this mistake, take a closer look.
A woman who has endured the most unusual life is someone of wisdom, someone who has been chosen by God to go through things that have made her stronger.
Think of all the great women in the Bible: Mary Magdalene who was tormented by a past. Ruth and Naomi both spouses of weak-willed and weak-minded men. And the nameless woman (Mark 5) with a sickness that required her by the old law to cry "Unclean!" and separated her from doing business as usual or making friends. Have you ever felt like you have no name? no identification? Lost? No purpose? Does your sickness or trial make you fell ostracized and separated from society. Make you feel like you are a laughing stock. Makes it difficult for you to live as others would normally live?
Mary was a prostitute, a very uneasy woman. But by the time Jesus was done with her, she was His closest follower.
Esther was unfortunate in marrying an abusive man, but by the time God was done with her, she had married one of the wealthiest men in the land. Before we wonder, ' What's up with her?' ask yourself, 'What's up with me?'
That woman could be my mother, sister, aunt, in-law, stepmother, niece, grandmother, great-grandmother, neighbor, friend, or co-worker, etc. That woman could be ME.
Women were ordained, anointed, and blessed to be carriers of life. God never intended woen to be channels of abuse and vessels through which to convey death.
Let's build and encourage each other, as did Ruth and Naomi . Pass this to all the women in your life. Encourage and love, forgive and forget, and trust that the woman that receives this will be touched in some way. May the peace and love of Christ be upon you!
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Case / Client Update
As a result of our letter writing campaign and efforts on behalf of our client, she has recieved her first child support check for $200. She also has a court date to get her case revised and improved.
I am also currently working on getting her brother a new trial in Texas based on with held evidence.
Love
Jim
I am also currently working on getting her brother a new trial in Texas based on with held evidence.
Love
Jim
Inspiring Letter from Pastor Harnage to Anonymous Client
This is a letter to one of our clients from Pastor Harnage:
Your story of 20 years reminds me of the Jew's oppression at the hands of the Egyptians when God sent Moses to them with a message. Exodus 3:7 "...I have seen the affliction of my people...and have heard their cry by reason of their taskmasters...for i know their sorrows and I am come down to deliver them out...and bring them up...unto a good land and a large...the cry of the children is come unto me...and I have seen the oppression wherewith the Egyptians oppress them with. verses 7-10.
God has seen yours and your husband's sorrows. God has heard your cries. He has seen how you have been hard timed and oppressed by people who are jealous of you, your lives, your happiness, your stand, and your success. God has sent before you a wind to prepare a way for triumph for you and the kids. It is not for us to understand the why. It is for us to know that God is in control regardless of what it looks like.
By faith, you, your husband, and Carolyn ( my sife of 32 years) and i agree together on God's promises in Acts 16:31...and thou shalt be saved and thy house." When Satan has accosted us and our house, children, home, job, sickness, or otherwise I keep remembering the promises of God where He promised me my house.
I am ready for deliverance and victory for my house and your house and other's homes who are trusting God in the middle of the storm.
Again, let's agree on the Word which is the will of God that says...Peace, be still." (Jesus).
In Jesus' name we speak peace, be still to this storm while God works. We speak a word of faith and ask god to give you your house and all that is therein from the front post to the back post from one side to the other and that God, in Jesus' name give you double for your trouble!" Amen. I feel the presence of the Lord through this keyboard right now.
Let's agree and believe God. We claim those kids, your safety, that God melt hearts and those who are hiding behind doors that God expose them like only he knows how.
Here are other promises we want to hold onto, agree with, and spek by faith. There are so many but here a few. We are believing God with you for a total and monumental victory. Let's just take a moment and worship God and praise Him for being God. Amen.
Jeremiah 32:27. Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is anything too hard for me?"
Isaiah Chapter 35.
Isaiah 41: 10-20. All those who were inflamed against you shall be embarrassed, ashamed, and frustrated and they will be as nothing. Those who strive with you will persih.. Those who war with you shall be as nothing. You will seek them and not find them.
Isaiah 43.
Isaiah 51:11-13
Isaiah 53:4. Do not fear. FOr you will not be ashamed. You will not become frustrated. You will forget the shame of your youth and you will not remember your widowhood any longer.
Jim and Carolyn Harnage
Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Inc.
P.O.Box 1112
Lake Park, GA 31636
229-559-6832
229-300-4882
A 501(c)3 Organization
www.silentministries.org/
http://silentministriesrecoveryoutreach.blogspot.com/
No fee social services. A gift of any amount makes you a member of an aggressive 501c3 ministry organization. All supporters or donors recieve a reciept.
Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Inc. Incorporated and registered with the Secretary of State of Georgia.
Owners and proprieters have over 30 years experience in pastoral ministry, office administration, research, sales, collections, small business advocates, child support asistance, investigatory, and other social services assistance.
Child Support Recovery, Pro Se Assistance, Collections, Power of Attorney, Limited Power of Attorney, Elder Services, Corporate Filing Assistance, Domestic Violence-Abuse Seminars, Life Bible & Family Certificate Studies, Protective Orders, Divorce Pro Se,Order of Contempt, Forma Pauperis, Pro Bono Search, Public Records and Assets Search, Child Guard (Local), Missing Persons Locate, Inmate Advocacy, Request New Trial, Request Health Care, Consumer Protection and Advocacy, Protect Your Savings and Profit Sharing, Delivery and Transportation Services, Courier, Employment Search Assistance, Indigent-Homeless Advocacy, Child Advocacy, Pastoral Ministries.
Your story of 20 years reminds me of the Jew's oppression at the hands of the Egyptians when God sent Moses to them with a message. Exodus 3:7 "...I have seen the affliction of my people...and have heard their cry by reason of their taskmasters...for i know their sorrows and I am come down to deliver them out...and bring them up...unto a good land and a large...the cry of the children is come unto me...and I have seen the oppression wherewith the Egyptians oppress them with. verses 7-10.
God has seen yours and your husband's sorrows. God has heard your cries. He has seen how you have been hard timed and oppressed by people who are jealous of you, your lives, your happiness, your stand, and your success. God has sent before you a wind to prepare a way for triumph for you and the kids. It is not for us to understand the why. It is for us to know that God is in control regardless of what it looks like.
By faith, you, your husband, and Carolyn ( my sife of 32 years) and i agree together on God's promises in Acts 16:31...and thou shalt be saved and thy house." When Satan has accosted us and our house, children, home, job, sickness, or otherwise I keep remembering the promises of God where He promised me my house.
I am ready for deliverance and victory for my house and your house and other's homes who are trusting God in the middle of the storm.
Again, let's agree on the Word which is the will of God that says...Peace, be still." (Jesus).
In Jesus' name we speak peace, be still to this storm while God works. We speak a word of faith and ask god to give you your house and all that is therein from the front post to the back post from one side to the other and that God, in Jesus' name give you double for your trouble!" Amen. I feel the presence of the Lord through this keyboard right now.
Let's agree and believe God. We claim those kids, your safety, that God melt hearts and those who are hiding behind doors that God expose them like only he knows how.
Here are other promises we want to hold onto, agree with, and spek by faith. There are so many but here a few. We are believing God with you for a total and monumental victory. Let's just take a moment and worship God and praise Him for being God. Amen.
Jeremiah 32:27. Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is anything too hard for me?"
Isaiah Chapter 35.
Isaiah 41: 10-20. All those who were inflamed against you shall be embarrassed, ashamed, and frustrated and they will be as nothing. Those who strive with you will persih.. Those who war with you shall be as nothing. You will seek them and not find them.
Isaiah 43.
Isaiah 51:11-13
Isaiah 53:4. Do not fear. FOr you will not be ashamed. You will not become frustrated. You will forget the shame of your youth and you will not remember your widowhood any longer.
Jim and Carolyn Harnage
Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Inc.
P.O.Box 1112
Lake Park, GA 31636
229-559-6832
229-300-4882
A 501(c)3 Organization
www.silentministries.org/
http://silentministriesrecoveryoutreach.blogspot.com/
No fee social services. A gift of any amount makes you a member of an aggressive 501c3 ministry organization. All supporters or donors recieve a reciept.
Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Inc. Incorporated and registered with the Secretary of State of Georgia.
Owners and proprieters have over 30 years experience in pastoral ministry, office administration, research, sales, collections, small business advocates, child support asistance, investigatory, and other social services assistance.
Child Support Recovery, Pro Se Assistance, Collections, Power of Attorney, Limited Power of Attorney, Elder Services, Corporate Filing Assistance, Domestic Violence-Abuse Seminars, Life Bible & Family Certificate Studies, Protective Orders, Divorce Pro Se,Order of Contempt, Forma Pauperis, Pro Bono Search, Public Records and Assets Search, Child Guard (Local), Missing Persons Locate, Inmate Advocacy, Request New Trial, Request Health Care, Consumer Protection and Advocacy, Protect Your Savings and Profit Sharing, Delivery and Transportation Services, Courier, Employment Search Assistance, Indigent-Homeless Advocacy, Child Advocacy, Pastoral Ministries.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
From Bitter to Better
Since you are surrounded by so many witnesses who have won before you strip off and throw aside every unnecessary weight and that tendency to quit that so overwhelms you and run with patient enduracne and with steady and active perseverance and persistence the rase that is before you. Look away from all distractions unto Jesus the Leader, Source, and Finisher of our faith Who endured the cross and ignored the shame and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Do not be weary and lose heart. Hebrrews 12:1-3 Amplified Bible.
You began a job today. You took on a project. And now you are having second thoughts. You can do this. Break out of the norm. Expand your coasts and borders and pray God to keep you from evil as you serve him in your capacity. You are in God's will today. Go from bitter to better and don't quit now.
Love;
Jim and Carolyn
Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Inc.
Nationwide faith-based non-profit social services, pro se assists, pro bono assist, consumer rights complaints, child support assistance and recovery, collections negotiations, corporate filings and 501c3 partnership, prison ministry, inmate health care complaints, pen pals, legal research, domestic violence and abuse seminars, "From Bitter To Better" Life Seminars, victim protection and relocation, clothing, food, partnership fundraisers.
Jim and Carolyn Harnage
Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Inc.
A 501c3 Non-Profit
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Living Without Child Support. Pamela Brasher. Horrifying Details.
Living Without Child Support
By Pamela Brasher
Editor's Note: Pamela S. Brasher is a walking testimony that the broken government child support enforcement system needs repairs. Although, many states frown unfavorably on the rising tide of private child support enforcement agencies Pamela's story is testament to the need for, and reasons, private enforcement agencies, like private security agencies, are knocking passionately on doors of government agencies with hand fulls of affidavits from hungry children and desperate parents to hand over cases that have grown cold and lifeless. This testimony will bring tears to your eyes and hopefully passion to your heart to help us fight for her.
Jim Harnage, Outreach Pastor and Minister, Owner, Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Inc. Child Support Recovery.
> There are over twelve million single mother households in the United
> States today. Each of these single mothers has a unique, yet similar story
> to tell. I am one of those twelve million single mothers and I would like
> to share my story with you.
>
> My name is Pam Brasher. I am forty-three years old and the single mother
> of three children ranging from ages eleven to seventeen years. I live in
> Southside, Alabama and I am employed by the City of Southside where I am
> the secretary to the Mayor.
>
> I am writing to you today because I believe you are sympathetic to the
> difficulties women face in a society which seems to care little for the
> welfare of single women and their children.
>
> I am one among thousands who have grown weary of defending my rights in
> the court systems and winning my cases only to receive nothing in return.
> I deserve justice not only for myself, but for my children as well.
>
> I am one of many who are unheard of…but highly noticeable. One of many
> whose hair is never in place, who is sleep deprived, who is running on an
> empty tank financially, emotionally, mentally, and physically. I am one of
> many who face the day with a look of contemplative concern that comes from
> too little sleep, limited food in the cupboard, and bill juggling since
> last year's tax return. Hercules himself would tremble at the range of
> responsibilities women like me face each day.
>
> No one is capable understanding or appreciating the method to the madness
> in my life unless they to are a single parent attempting to care for
> themselves as well as their children with little or no help from the other
> parent. The work load is overwhelming. Earning a living, preparing meals,
> caring for children, helping with homework, cleaning house, paying bills,
> repairing the car, handling insurance, and doing the banking, income tax,
> marketing, the list goes on and on. Only a single parent can see clearly
> how the house can sustain itself and stand against all the odds and
> restraints that are present in the social and legal system. I crawl out of
> bed each day because I have no other choice but to try and survive. I
> survive anyway that I can. I do it twenty-four hours a day, seven days a
> week. I am the famous juggler of time, activity, finances, and
> responsibility; I have defied the laws of gravity, physics, and economics.
>
> In October of 2004 I joined the ranks of many other women in society
> today. I became a single mother of three exceptionally bright children. I
> was awarded full custody, $1200.00 a month in child support ($92.31 each
> week, per child) and $300.00 in alimony. My ex-husband was ordered to pay
> all medical expenses (which has been paid by me since 2006), and the
> monthly mortgage on our home until our youngest son (who was six at the
> time) graduated from high school. He met and married a woman with two
> children in May of 2006. He purchased a nice home with a pool, on a golf
> course, and in the country club. He bought new furniture and appliances
> for every room. He had the best of everything. As the next two years
> passed, my ex-husband stopped paying medical and orthodontic payments. His
> life insurance policy, which he was ordered to be kept current by the
> courts, was canceled. He refused to help with school expenses and he
> became increasingly angry and abusive on the weekends he had with the
> children. During this time and after court ordered counseling, he was
> stripped of any visitation rights unless supervised. This was due to
> physical, mental, and emotional abuse.
>
> In January of 2007 I received a letter stating the mortgage on the home my
> children and I had lived in for seventeen years had not been paid in over
> four months and foreclosure proceedings had begun. In February 2007 the
> judge ordered my ex-husband to bring the mortgage up to date or be
> incarcerated. He made no attempt to make the mortgage payment on the home
> his children lived in, however, the mortgage payment of $1400.00 on the
> home his wife and two stepchildren lived in remained current.
>
> In June of 2007 my children and I were notified that we had ten days to
> vacate the home. We were emotionally and mentally devastated. We had no
> idea where we would go or what we would do. I knew that on my weekly
> salary it would not be possible to pay rent, much less utilities. Not to
> mention, I was still making a loan payment each month for siding on a home
> I was forced to leave. I don’t believe I have ever felt so alone and
> afraid. A relative offered to let us stay in his home until we could get
> back on our feet. I honestly don’t know where we would have gone or what
> might have happened to us if he had not been there.
>
> For four months my children and I lived out of two rooms in someone
else’s
> home. My son and I shared one room and slept on a mattress in the floor.
> My daughters shared the other room. Although I was thankful for the roof
> over our heads and the compassion my cousin had shown, the humiliating
> circumstances of being homeless and unable to provide a home for my
> children was almost more than I could bear.
>
> My former husband received a generous salary and benefits from a large
> corporation. The company provided him with a new vehicle, paid for his
> auto insurance, fuel, cell phone, and internet access. He was capable of
> meeting his responsibilities as well as any material needs our children
> may have had. However, he chose to provide a more than comfortable life
> for himself, his wife, and his two step-children, leaving his own children
> homeless.
>
> As for my obligations, I have always demonstrated the utmost in
> responsibility by ensuring the mental, physical, emotional, nutritional,
> and educational needs of my children were met on a daily basis. My
> children have and always will be my top priority.
>
> My ex-husband was incarcerated for six days for failure to bring the
> payments current. He was released after his wife (who works in
> administration for a local hospital) had a doctor send a letter stating he
> had an anxiety disorder and his condition required his immediate release.
> This came as quite a shock to me, considering I had been married to him
> for fifteen years and he was mentally and physically the picture of
> health. In the meantime, his income increased $1200.00 each month since he
> no longer paid the mortgage on the home his children had lived in all of
> their lives. His lifestyle did not change, but was better than ever. The
> legal system released him from jail. To this date he has not suffered any
> consequences for his actions. He went on with his life and his income
> increased while the children and I were without a roof over our heads and
> he still wasn’t providing court ordered medical payments.
>
> In October of 2007, after four months of being homeless, I was able to
> purchase a new home for myself and my children. It was considerably
> smaller than our old home and we were forced to sell most of our furniture
> and many family treasures, but we were determined to find the silver
> lining in our shattered lives. With only $94.00 remaining after the weekly
> mortgage and insurance payment of $230.00, our income was budgeted to the
> penny and dependent on the child support payments. We learned to do
> without many things, but we realized we still had what was
important…each
> other. The bond between my children and I is remarkable and unbreakable.
> We were determined we were going to survive. My oldest daughter, Anna,
> began working the summer of her freshmen year in high school. She
> continues to work to help support not only herself, but her brother and
> sister as well (all while maintaining a 4.3 grade point average). Anna is
> an amazing young woman. Her childhood has been stolen from her because her
> father refuses to meet his obligations as a parent.
>
> In February 2008, with bills due and cupboards bare, I received the news
> Mr. Brasher had willingly resigned from his well-paying job of eight years
> because it was too stressful and he was depressed. He had threatened to
> quit many times. Once again, the walls were closing down around me.
> Knowing that I would now be the sole person responsible for the well-being
> of my children, I swallowed my pride and made the humiliating walk through
> the doors of the Department of Human Resources in search of some temporary
> assistance, however, I quickly learned that because I am employed and
> considered to be a middle class citizen I was disqualified from receiving
> any financial aid from the government.
>
> For the past fourteen months I have been in and out of court (more times
> than I care to count) fighting for my children. During this time I
> received child support only when Mr. Brasher was threatened with
> incarceration. From August through November I did not receive any child
> support payments what-so-ever.
>
> In December 2008 I was awarded a judgment of $7,500.00 for back child
> support and $4,238.75 for failure to provide previous provisions of the
> Court regarding my oldest child’s vehicle and insurance. The issues
> regarding current child support obligations, past due medical receipts,
> and post minority support were addressed in court but were not mentioned
> in the ruling. However, the judge ordered Mr. Brasher to pay $200.00 each
> week in child support arrearages.
>
> Last week I received a final ruling in my case. I was awarded a judgment
> of $9,710.35 for child support arrearages and $3,723.24 for past due
> medical bills. Mr. Brasher’s child support obligations were reduced to
> $569.00 each month (or $43.77 each week per child). His court ordered
> child support arrearage payments were reduced from $200.00 each week to
> $100.00 each month. Again, the post minority support was not mentioned in
> the ruling even though it was addressed a second time in court. I honestly
> thought there must have been a terrible mistake. It will take him over
> eight years to pay back the past due child support alone, no interest
> factored in and not including the additional judgments I was previously
> awarded. It seems my fate as well as my children’s has been sealed.
>
> My circumstances are neither special nor rare. In fact, my story is
> entirely too common. I am a single parent who is owed child support; one
> of many who has worked with an attorney and the court system only to have
> my case continued and the court orders ignored. I have stood by and
> watched the courts give my children’s father a “slap on the wrist”.
I have
> tried to help myself, pursued my case with the state agency, and sought
> temporary assistance only to be denied or rejected. I am one of many who
> have run out of options and who are consumed with the feeling of despair
> and defeat.
>
> The prospects for the increasing number of children living with mothers
> who can not provide them with the basic necessities won't brighten.
> Although continued improvements in the collection rate are vital,
> providing support to single parents and their children means going beyond
> simply improving collection.
>
> The legal system falls short of supporting single parents when it comes to
> enforcing court orders for dead beat dads. Months go by before the courts
> will hear a case. They are often continued repeatedly and the single
> mother and her children are forced into bankruptcy, losing their homes,
> cars, and their dignity. The time frame for hearing court cases and
> enforcing court rulings is detrimental to single mothers whose daily
> survival depends on receiving their child support payments on time and
> without delay. It does not matter how many court battles we win or what we
> are awarded if the system cannot enforce the court order. We are left with
> nothing but a piece of paper stating we are victorious.
>
> I have been blessed with three amazing and exceptional children. They
> excel academically and are in the top of their class. Over the years, they
> have observed me struggling to survive financially and emotionally. At a
> very young age, they have learned the meaning of personal sacrifice. They
> deserve justice, a sense of security, and peace of mind in their lives.
>
> I have always strived to do the best for my family. I consider myself to
> be a strong woman; tough, and determined; however, due to circumstances
> beyond my control, I have reached the end of my rope. I am not sure how I
> can improve the situation I am in. I am not sure if I can break the
> barricades that are blocking me from providing the basic necessities and a
> home for my children. The current laws and programs do not provide the
> support single parents need to recover from the struggles they face.
>
> Again, I am a single parent, one of many who are alone; one of many who
> has visions of a better life for their children. It is my hope that you
> will help to raise awareness of the plight of single women in society
> today; their struggles and their fears; their courage and their strength.
> It is only when we come together that our voices can be heard; it is only
> then that we can fight for our rights and focus on regaining the
> confidence and dignity which has been cruelly stolen from us.
>
> On behalf of the millions of single parents across the United States, I
> would like to know my voice is being heard. An answer must be found. The
> children we are attempting to raise are the future of this country, but we
> cannot do it alone. Help me in my efforts to provide a better road to
> their future. Help me move a mountain.
>
> Sincerely,
>
> Pamela S. Brasher
By Pamela Brasher
Editor's Note: Pamela S. Brasher is a walking testimony that the broken government child support enforcement system needs repairs. Although, many states frown unfavorably on the rising tide of private child support enforcement agencies Pamela's story is testament to the need for, and reasons, private enforcement agencies, like private security agencies, are knocking passionately on doors of government agencies with hand fulls of affidavits from hungry children and desperate parents to hand over cases that have grown cold and lifeless. This testimony will bring tears to your eyes and hopefully passion to your heart to help us fight for her.
Jim Harnage, Outreach Pastor and Minister, Owner, Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Inc. Child Support Recovery.
> There are over twelve million single mother households in the United
> States today. Each of these single mothers has a unique, yet similar story
> to tell. I am one of those twelve million single mothers and I would like
> to share my story with you.
>
> My name is Pam Brasher. I am forty-three years old and the single mother
> of three children ranging from ages eleven to seventeen years. I live in
> Southside, Alabama and I am employed by the City of Southside where I am
> the secretary to the Mayor.
>
> I am writing to you today because I believe you are sympathetic to the
> difficulties women face in a society which seems to care little for the
> welfare of single women and their children.
>
> I am one among thousands who have grown weary of defending my rights in
> the court systems and winning my cases only to receive nothing in return.
> I deserve justice not only for myself, but for my children as well.
>
> I am one of many who are unheard of…but highly noticeable. One of many
> whose hair is never in place, who is sleep deprived, who is running on an
> empty tank financially, emotionally, mentally, and physically. I am one of
> many who face the day with a look of contemplative concern that comes from
> too little sleep, limited food in the cupboard, and bill juggling since
> last year's tax return. Hercules himself would tremble at the range of
> responsibilities women like me face each day.
>
> No one is capable understanding or appreciating the method to the madness
> in my life unless they to are a single parent attempting to care for
> themselves as well as their children with little or no help from the other
> parent. The work load is overwhelming. Earning a living, preparing meals,
> caring for children, helping with homework, cleaning house, paying bills,
> repairing the car, handling insurance, and doing the banking, income tax,
> marketing, the list goes on and on. Only a single parent can see clearly
> how the house can sustain itself and stand against all the odds and
> restraints that are present in the social and legal system. I crawl out of
> bed each day because I have no other choice but to try and survive. I
> survive anyway that I can. I do it twenty-four hours a day, seven days a
> week. I am the famous juggler of time, activity, finances, and
> responsibility; I have defied the laws of gravity, physics, and economics.
>
> In October of 2004 I joined the ranks of many other women in society
> today. I became a single mother of three exceptionally bright children. I
> was awarded full custody, $1200.00 a month in child support ($92.31 each
> week, per child) and $300.00 in alimony. My ex-husband was ordered to pay
> all medical expenses (which has been paid by me since 2006), and the
> monthly mortgage on our home until our youngest son (who was six at the
> time) graduated from high school. He met and married a woman with two
> children in May of 2006. He purchased a nice home with a pool, on a golf
> course, and in the country club. He bought new furniture and appliances
> for every room. He had the best of everything. As the next two years
> passed, my ex-husband stopped paying medical and orthodontic payments. His
> life insurance policy, which he was ordered to be kept current by the
> courts, was canceled. He refused to help with school expenses and he
> became increasingly angry and abusive on the weekends he had with the
> children. During this time and after court ordered counseling, he was
> stripped of any visitation rights unless supervised. This was due to
> physical, mental, and emotional abuse.
>
> In January of 2007 I received a letter stating the mortgage on the home my
> children and I had lived in for seventeen years had not been paid in over
> four months and foreclosure proceedings had begun. In February 2007 the
> judge ordered my ex-husband to bring the mortgage up to date or be
> incarcerated. He made no attempt to make the mortgage payment on the home
> his children lived in, however, the mortgage payment of $1400.00 on the
> home his wife and two stepchildren lived in remained current.
>
> In June of 2007 my children and I were notified that we had ten days to
> vacate the home. We were emotionally and mentally devastated. We had no
> idea where we would go or what we would do. I knew that on my weekly
> salary it would not be possible to pay rent, much less utilities. Not to
> mention, I was still making a loan payment each month for siding on a home
> I was forced to leave. I don’t believe I have ever felt so alone and
> afraid. A relative offered to let us stay in his home until we could get
> back on our feet. I honestly don’t know where we would have gone or what
> might have happened to us if he had not been there.
>
> For four months my children and I lived out of two rooms in someone
else’s
> home. My son and I shared one room and slept on a mattress in the floor.
> My daughters shared the other room. Although I was thankful for the roof
> over our heads and the compassion my cousin had shown, the humiliating
> circumstances of being homeless and unable to provide a home for my
> children was almost more than I could bear.
>
> My former husband received a generous salary and benefits from a large
> corporation. The company provided him with a new vehicle, paid for his
> auto insurance, fuel, cell phone, and internet access. He was capable of
> meeting his responsibilities as well as any material needs our children
> may have had. However, he chose to provide a more than comfortable life
> for himself, his wife, and his two step-children, leaving his own children
> homeless.
>
> As for my obligations, I have always demonstrated the utmost in
> responsibility by ensuring the mental, physical, emotional, nutritional,
> and educational needs of my children were met on a daily basis. My
> children have and always will be my top priority.
>
> My ex-husband was incarcerated for six days for failure to bring the
> payments current. He was released after his wife (who works in
> administration for a local hospital) had a doctor send a letter stating he
> had an anxiety disorder and his condition required his immediate release.
> This came as quite a shock to me, considering I had been married to him
> for fifteen years and he was mentally and physically the picture of
> health. In the meantime, his income increased $1200.00 each month since he
> no longer paid the mortgage on the home his children had lived in all of
> their lives. His lifestyle did not change, but was better than ever. The
> legal system released him from jail. To this date he has not suffered any
> consequences for his actions. He went on with his life and his income
> increased while the children and I were without a roof over our heads and
> he still wasn’t providing court ordered medical payments.
>
> In October of 2007, after four months of being homeless, I was able to
> purchase a new home for myself and my children. It was considerably
> smaller than our old home and we were forced to sell most of our furniture
> and many family treasures, but we were determined to find the silver
> lining in our shattered lives. With only $94.00 remaining after the weekly
> mortgage and insurance payment of $230.00, our income was budgeted to the
> penny and dependent on the child support payments. We learned to do
> without many things, but we realized we still had what was
important…each
> other. The bond between my children and I is remarkable and unbreakable.
> We were determined we were going to survive. My oldest daughter, Anna,
> began working the summer of her freshmen year in high school. She
> continues to work to help support not only herself, but her brother and
> sister as well (all while maintaining a 4.3 grade point average). Anna is
> an amazing young woman. Her childhood has been stolen from her because her
> father refuses to meet his obligations as a parent.
>
> In February 2008, with bills due and cupboards bare, I received the news
> Mr. Brasher had willingly resigned from his well-paying job of eight years
> because it was too stressful and he was depressed. He had threatened to
> quit many times. Once again, the walls were closing down around me.
> Knowing that I would now be the sole person responsible for the well-being
> of my children, I swallowed my pride and made the humiliating walk through
> the doors of the Department of Human Resources in search of some temporary
> assistance, however, I quickly learned that because I am employed and
> considered to be a middle class citizen I was disqualified from receiving
> any financial aid from the government.
>
> For the past fourteen months I have been in and out of court (more times
> than I care to count) fighting for my children. During this time I
> received child support only when Mr. Brasher was threatened with
> incarceration. From August through November I did not receive any child
> support payments what-so-ever.
>
> In December 2008 I was awarded a judgment of $7,500.00 for back child
> support and $4,238.75 for failure to provide previous provisions of the
> Court regarding my oldest child’s vehicle and insurance. The issues
> regarding current child support obligations, past due medical receipts,
> and post minority support were addressed in court but were not mentioned
> in the ruling. However, the judge ordered Mr. Brasher to pay $200.00 each
> week in child support arrearages.
>
> Last week I received a final ruling in my case. I was awarded a judgment
> of $9,710.35 for child support arrearages and $3,723.24 for past due
> medical bills. Mr. Brasher’s child support obligations were reduced to
> $569.00 each month (or $43.77 each week per child). His court ordered
> child support arrearage payments were reduced from $200.00 each week to
> $100.00 each month. Again, the post minority support was not mentioned in
> the ruling even though it was addressed a second time in court. I honestly
> thought there must have been a terrible mistake. It will take him over
> eight years to pay back the past due child support alone, no interest
> factored in and not including the additional judgments I was previously
> awarded. It seems my fate as well as my children’s has been sealed.
>
> My circumstances are neither special nor rare. In fact, my story is
> entirely too common. I am a single parent who is owed child support; one
> of many who has worked with an attorney and the court system only to have
> my case continued and the court orders ignored. I have stood by and
> watched the courts give my children’s father a “slap on the wrist”.
I have
> tried to help myself, pursued my case with the state agency, and sought
> temporary assistance only to be denied or rejected. I am one of many who
> have run out of options and who are consumed with the feeling of despair
> and defeat.
>
> The prospects for the increasing number of children living with mothers
> who can not provide them with the basic necessities won't brighten.
> Although continued improvements in the collection rate are vital,
> providing support to single parents and their children means going beyond
> simply improving collection.
>
> The legal system falls short of supporting single parents when it comes to
> enforcing court orders for dead beat dads. Months go by before the courts
> will hear a case. They are often continued repeatedly and the single
> mother and her children are forced into bankruptcy, losing their homes,
> cars, and their dignity. The time frame for hearing court cases and
> enforcing court rulings is detrimental to single mothers whose daily
> survival depends on receiving their child support payments on time and
> without delay. It does not matter how many court battles we win or what we
> are awarded if the system cannot enforce the court order. We are left with
> nothing but a piece of paper stating we are victorious.
>
> I have been blessed with three amazing and exceptional children. They
> excel academically and are in the top of their class. Over the years, they
> have observed me struggling to survive financially and emotionally. At a
> very young age, they have learned the meaning of personal sacrifice. They
> deserve justice, a sense of security, and peace of mind in their lives.
>
> I have always strived to do the best for my family. I consider myself to
> be a strong woman; tough, and determined; however, due to circumstances
> beyond my control, I have reached the end of my rope. I am not sure how I
> can improve the situation I am in. I am not sure if I can break the
> barricades that are blocking me from providing the basic necessities and a
> home for my children. The current laws and programs do not provide the
> support single parents need to recover from the struggles they face.
>
> Again, I am a single parent, one of many who are alone; one of many who
> has visions of a better life for their children. It is my hope that you
> will help to raise awareness of the plight of single women in society
> today; their struggles and their fears; their courage and their strength.
> It is only when we come together that our voices can be heard; it is only
> then that we can fight for our rights and focus on regaining the
> confidence and dignity which has been cruelly stolen from us.
>
> On behalf of the millions of single parents across the United States, I
> would like to know my voice is being heard. An answer must be found. The
> children we are attempting to raise are the future of this country, but we
> cannot do it alone. Help me in my efforts to provide a better road to
> their future. Help me move a mountain.
>
> Sincerely,
>
> Pamela S. Brasher
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