Negotiating Child Support

Hi there. Pastor Jim here with Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach. I have a message for some of those who have chosen not to pay support and abandon their family.

Sooo...you've decided that you no longer want the responsibility of supporting the children of your loins? Too much of a good thing, huh? You've decided to run away from responsibility. So, if you think that the two of you could not make it a go with both working just how in the hell do you think that she is going to make it on her own with just one job and three kids to support? You are one lazy, sorry, S.O.B. You think she can go to mamas with the kids and mama can feed and clothe, provide schooling and medical care for the family on a small pension or disability check. You don't care do you? She will cry all night because the car is broken down, the baby has strep and can't go to the doctor, there is no milk and diapers. But you don't care because you are jacked up on crack, tramping with another loser who ran from God and a good home.

I wouldn't give you two rusty cents for your health, mentality, or your wealth for this decision you've made to make your family suffer like this.

Oh, forget the crap and crocadile tears and those lousy excuses how she doesn't appreciate you, how you have worked so hard, and some one else will appreciate you more. The Executive Administrative Assistant for Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach is working four jobs between her and her husband to make ends meet and catch up from lay-offs so don't give me that crap that you can't find a job.

You are looking for an excuse and you found it now.

You are at a crossroads and I'll give you three choices.

Acknowledge that you are a sorry good-for-nothing-excuse-of-a-man and that you want to change who you are. Ask God for help to be a man and go look for work. Ask for help in your circumstances and get your family in church.

Who cares if your mama never breast fed you or your daddy never hugged you , no one forced you to make babies.

Admit that down deep inside you there is an individual who really wants to be the man God created you to be, to be fruitful, and productive in this life and not just making babies. You've thought with what's in your pants and now it's time to think with what's between your ears.

Or, you can pay an attorney a lot of money and get a divorce and she'll be the worst pain in your side for evermore because she will get everything you make for the rest of your life.

You can stand before a judge and sniffle because you could not make a go of it and claim irreconcilable differences and an irretrievable marriage. Man you sure were hot on that blond bomber at the bar the other night weren't you? It wasn't so irretrievable then was it? Your problem? You lust for something strange. Is that home-wrecker at the bar going to nurse your fevers and put up with your stinking feet in bed, though? No. Will she hold a cold rag to your face when you are puking out your guts from the virus? Are you going to feel comfortable with farting in front of her? No.

Or, you can run like a dog in heat away from your family, your high school sweet heart, the babies and the bills, responsibility of a job, and I can come after you.

Uh huh. That's right. Because she will call me from any where in this blessed country.and God and I will stay so close on your heels you will beg to come home. Can I do this? You bet your sweet patooty. And I will find you if it takes me forever and even then I'll serve you with a summons at St. Peter's gates.

She will have the money to get you because I will be sure she has the services she needs on count of those babies. You see, it's all about the kids. Not you nor her but the kids, bad boy.

I will catch you and you and I will have an alter call. I will help you remain broke, penniless, low-life, lonely, crappy, you will drive a rattle trap, and you will eat spam because I will find you and collect an offering. While you are boasting how no one will make you do what you don't want to, I will make you jump from phone to phone, residence to residence, state to state, job to job, under-the-table payoffs, because I will claim your paychecks, tax refunds, driver licenses, passports, and you will keep a very tired eye out all the time wondering when is it going to happen.

You can hide behind that Sugar Mama who claims to love you, claims to keep you erectile functional, and allow her to pretend that she likes it, but after my Sunday School lesson with her she will turn on you and leave you spit less, gutted, and empty and I will make her turn on you. You think you have hidden all the assets but I have ways of knowing where you are, where those little babies are, and how to get in touch with your sweet spots and baby, there is no heaven later when you play hell on earth.

And for every bruise you leave behind that's a bruise you will eventually account for.

Big talk from a little man? Nope. That's facts from God, The Word, and Pastor Jim. Let's you and me get together and help you support those kids now...or later.

Will the ushers come forward? Pass the offering plate, please.

This is Pastor Jim. It's time for Life Lessons.

Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Inc.

Child Support Recovery